By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post Rare, but it does exist. I know a woman who has never had her heart broken. Something inside her insists upon her leaving the man she is with before any emotional damage can occur. I marvel at this. She doesn’t struggle with conflicting feelings. They simply evaporate. She’s not cold and shallow, as one might imagine. She’s open and loving. How does this happen? Most of us have had to experience a broken heart to restore us to [...]
By Susan Winter Rule #1: There are no rules. There are no “rules” to modern dating. When applying the rules of romance from former time periods, we force modern-day individuals to squeeze themselves into a smaller version of who they are. Our current social climate includes vast changes (including female empowerment and open sexuality), and therefore calls for new ways of being. Each needs to create a new design of their own making, and one that is in alignment with their specific goals. Roles of defined [...]
By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post Breakup can have two distinctly different meanings. They can be exactly what they are, and they can also be the opposite of what they seem to be. A breakup can mean, “I’m done here. It’s really over.” Or, it can be a plea for proof of your love. This type of breakup comes as a threat, which is saying, “I love you. You’re hurting me. I want to stay with you but I feel scared, insecure and unappreciated. [...]
No matter what your romantic style; long-term relationships, casual sex, or a mixture of both…make sure you’re getting your needs met by speaking your truth. If you know you only want marriage, say so. If you only feel comfortable in a monogamous relationship with sexual exclusivity, say so. Be direct. You have nothing to lose. A serious partner won’t be put off by this approach. Knowing what you want and stating your desire has long been held as a “social taboo.” Far too often [...]
The 21st Century didn't cause servers to crash or the world to end. But, it did mark a definitive shift in the dating experience. Before that time, a person didn't need to qualify what was happening when dating. People entered dating was a method of establishing partnership. We didn't need to ask, "Where's this going?" We knew that continued contact with a person resulted in sexual expression. Inherent in that format, coupledom was established. No one needed to ask and no one needed to clarify [...]
