It had been 20 years. I opened up my email one dark winter morning in 2011 to find a letter from my first younger man. The sight of it surprised me and also added delight. There was so much I had wanted to tell him oven the past 20 years, not knowing if I could or should. How could I tell him of his impact? Dare I tell him that he changed my life, completely? Should he know this? Would he care?? His impact was [...]
Cougars: each year fashion magazines pick a color and rename it as the ‘new black.’ Similarly, the media is now stating women are the ‘new men.’ But this economic trend isn’t a fad. It’s a concrete power shift that’s proving its continuing reality as it changes the entire social dynamic between our two genders. Women have out-paced men in securing greater numbers of advanced college degrees. We’re out-earning our male counterparts despite a non-equal pay scale. Recent statistics herald women as the “breadwinner” in 40% [...]
As women, we have been historically conditioned to nurture others. It’s part biological, and part societal. This is especially apparent when it comes to the men in our lives. While this ability is one of our greatest qualities, it can become problematic when dating a younger man. The instinct to nurture emotionally, often becomes transmuted into nurturing financially. With the added resources of economic empowerment, an older woman who nurtures in this way, risks becoming “the source.” The Source is another term for becoming the [...]
From what the younger men have told me, the most alluring quality a woman possesses is her confidence. […]
Although this form of relationship has been around for centuries, normally the only people able to get away with it were Queens, famous artists, or celebrities. Now, it’s your next door neighbor, your plumber’s Mother, your friend’s sister, and possibly you as well. And, it’s the countless others you don’t hear about, dispersed throughout cities and countries worldwide. They aren’t famous. They aren’t gorgeous. No longer confined to icons such as Demi Moore, Madonna or Bo Derek, everyday women are engaged in this new archetype, [...]
