As one who shudders when she inputs her age in her on-line dating profile, I must protest. While we often hear the comment, “Age is just a number”…what a difference the exact digits makes. Recently I tried on-line dating as a last ditch effort to increase the number of men I was able to meet (outside my local gym). Having met my romantic partners in the health clubs for the last 30 years I came to the sad realization that writing is indeed a solitary [...]
Cougars: each year fashion magazines pick a color and rename it as the ‘new black.’ Similarly, the media is now stating women are the ‘new men.’ But this economic trend isn’t a fad. It’s a concrete power shift that’s proving its continuing reality as it changes the entire social dynamic between our two genders. Women have out-paced men in securing greater numbers of advanced college degrees. We’re out-earning our male counterparts despite a non-equal pay scale. Recent statistics herald women as the “breadwinner” in 40% [...]
Women, beware. You have money and power; which demands caution when assessing the sincerity of your admirers. There's a new breed of savvy man hitting the dating scene. He's not into the conquest of bedding you for the glory of bragging rights. He's not into a relationship based on how wonderful you are, even if he's same-aged or older. He's into your money and the lifestyle he may gain by knowing you. Self-edification knows no age or gender boundaries. Women have advanced in every frontier [...]
Several years ago I had five younger men ask my age, all in the same week. Three were direct questions that seemingly came out of nowhere, as they approached me on the street. The other two, occurred in my gym. All five men used it as their opening line, fused with flirtation and curiosity. And to all of them, I told my exact age. It’s nothing I can hide. It’s all over the Internet, as well as numerous newspapers and magazines. However, by the end [...]
For the mature woman, sexual communication is far beyond “Oh baby, you’re so hot.” It is, to an older woman, a form of deep intimacy. Honesty is intimacy. Without honesty, there is no possibility of having a rewarding relationship. The bedroom is just another location for one’s communication skills to shine. It is the older woman, who has freed herself from years of pre-programmed responses, or lack there of, who is able to engage her partner in the fullest sense of personal and mutual satisfaction. [...]
