By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post All humans have innate intuition. Yet no one’s cornered the market on this gift better than women. We may not know why we don’t believe what our partner’s telling us, but something about what he’s saying or how he’s saying it just doesn’t add up. We feel it. How far do you want to go to figure out the truth? If it’s a case of presumed infidelity, you need to know. But what about the smaller things that [...]
By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post You know you want to meet someone special. But thinking about the effort required for hitting the dating scene leaves you exhausted before beginning the journey. Isn’t there an easier way to find love? And, must it always involve stepping into the revolving dating door? Despite its rigors, dating is the necessary means to a rewarding end. We need this real-life experience to refine our wants and needs. The more people we meet, the more acute our focus. [...]
By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post What do you do when your relationship isn’t working? Whether you’ve been married for 15 years or dating for eight months, the decision whether to stay or leave is never easy. How long do you keep trying to make it right? And, when do you throw in the towel and walk away? The answer to these questions is easier to find when we start at the end and work our way backwards. There’s always the option to leave. [...]
By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post Is your partner playing hot and cold? One minute you’re high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you’re frozen out and left wondering what happened. You begin to question your actions. Did you say the wrong thing? Did you make the wrong move? It’s long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you’re standing on shaky ground. Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. [...]
By Susan Winter for The Huffington Post Why do we cling so desperately to a relationship that’s died? Because we’ve been told it’s the right choice to make. Leaving a dead relationship takes courage. Staying in a dead relationship takes self-sacrifice. We agonize over this decision; worrying about our future and the repercussions for those we love. Adding to our emotional struggle is the premium our culture places on sustaining a relationship. The underlying message insists that suffering is better than leaving, which makes the [...]
